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Vikram

WhatsApp export·6 Jul – 11 Aug 2024·45 messages·timestamps present

Your side of the chat shows 25 messages, 9 of the 14 opening messages, and a median reply time of 4 minutes.

What we counted
9 of 14
conversations you started
2.6
messages you sent during each of Vikram's silences
13 messages across 5 silences.
4 min
your median reply time
Vikram: 4 h 55.
1
direct question you asked about where things stand
3 Aug
0
limits you stated
16%
of your messages after 11 pm
Vikram: 85%.
What the research calls it
Attachment theory (Bowlby; Ainsworth; Hazan & Shaver)

Initiating contact and asking direct questions

This names a tendency to seek closeness and clarity actively — checking in, naming concerns directly, asking where things stand — rather than waiting for it.

In your chat

You opened most conversations (9 of 14), replied quickly (median 4 minutes versus his 4 hours 55 minutes), and asked the one direct status question in the whole chat, on 3 Aug at 23:06.

What would change our reading

This reading would change if the messages showed you withdrawing or setting distance in response to his silences; instead your side shows continued initiation and short, accepting replies like 'ok' and 'it's fine.'

If you want to read more: Attached (Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, 2010); A Secure Base (John Bowlby, 1988).

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