Vikram is keeping this going. He is not moving it forward. Seven plans were made here and none of them happened.
You sent 13 messages into those silences. Each time, the one who reopened it was you.
Across the 4 readings this chat could show, 22 out of 100. Every number here is counted from the messages themselves, not judged.
Three terms from the research fit what we counted. Each comes with what would change our reading.
Affection that arrives unpredictably, right after a period of absence, tends to make the connection feel more intense and harder to walk away from, not less.
All 5 silences over 72 hours (4, 9, 10, 4, 5 days) are followed by a warm or affectionate opener from Vikram, e.g. 'I miss your face' after the first cancellation, 'I've been thinking about you a lot' after 241 hours quiet.
A silence followed by a plain, unadorned explanation with no affection attached would read differently. That doesn't appear in these 45 messages.
If you want to read more: Schedules of Reinforcement (C. B. Ferster and B. F. Skinner, 1957); Attached (Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, 2010).
This looks at what someone says they'll do against what they actually do, since the gap between the two is more informative than either alone.
7 plans proposed by Vikram across 6 weeks, 0 kept: Lonavala, the following weekend, 'next month properly,' Friday, the rain-check tomorrow, the next tomorrow, and Saturday dinner all fell through.
One plan actually followed through, with a time and place that held, would break this reading. None of the seven did.
When a direct question is met with a counter-question or a dismissal instead of an answer, the original question gets buried rather than addressed.
You ask 'what are we actually doing here' on 3 Aug at 23:06. His reply, one minute later, is 'why do we need to label it?' followed by 'don't overthink it.' The only status question in the chat, answered 0 times directly.
A direct answer, even an uncomfortable one, would change this. What's here is two deflections back to back.
If you want to read more: Violations of power, adaptive blindness and betrayal trauma theory (Jennifer J. Freyd, Feminism & Psychology, 1997).